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How to Spank? The Complete Guide for BDSM Lovers❤️

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BDSM is an acronym that stands for bondage, discipline, submission, and masochism. Spanking simply refers to when someone uses their hands or objects to spank someone. You can also describe spanking as flirting because it signals that you are interested in something or someone. 

If you need an idea on how to spice up things in your relationship, try introducing BDSM. It is fun and creative. It is good to fulfil your sexual desires and not be boring in the bedroom. In everything you choose to do in the bedroom, always communicate with your partner to make sure they are okay with everything.

If you have ever wondered why bondage, discipline, submission, and masochism happen during sex, stay tuned for answers. You are in the right place. 

Table of Contents

Part 1. What Is Spanking in BDSM?

Spanking in BDSM creates excitement and sensation in sex. Spanking is often used by the submitter during sex. You can be spanked gently or very hard. It all depends on what you like in BDSM spanking sex.

BDSM includes various things like:

• Whipping.

• Figging.

• Tying of legs and hands.

• Using machines to fuck.

• Fisting.

• Straps.

• Wax play.

• Legs stretched and locked.

• Double penetration.

• Anal sex.

• Blindfold sex,

• Spanking,

• Blindfolded Sex.

• Gang bang.

• Chocking.

• Face fucking.

In this section, I will be educating you and giving tips on how to spank.

Spanking creates sexual tension. This is to create sexual excitement and intentions of giving pleasure. When we talk about spanking, we talk about when someone uses their hands or objects to spank someone. People find spanking very fun, hot, and sexy. Spanking is referred to as discipline in BDSM sex.

Part 2. How to Spank?

Tip 1. Be careful of where you are spanking.

Not every part of the body will react accordingly to spanking. That is why it is crucial to be cautious when spanking to avoid injuries and discomfort. During BDSM, you can be creative and fun, but you should also prevent increased aggression by being careful. Certain parts of the body will overreact to being spanked. For example, do not hit the clit aggressively because the clit plays a big major in creating an orgasm for a woman. 

Tip 2. Make sure you are comfortable with spanking.

Do not go for a spanking if you find spanking unpleasant, as you will not have fun. Be settled. Spanking often occurs because it is fun and creates sexual excitement, mainly if someone engages in dominant and submissive sex. Sometimes, it is best to research first, or best yet, watch porn and learn how these things work to know what you are getting yourself into.

Tip 3. Be gentle with the spanks.

Do not spank very harder because it will hurt unless the dominant prefers to be spanked hard. It is essential to be considerate and tender with the dominant’s body. During spanking BDSM, you should communicate and find out what works best for your partner. Some people really like to endure pain during sex, and it is definitely not weird. We are built differently. Then we have people who want gentle spanks and sexual stuff because they do not like pain.

Tip 4. Buy spanking paddles.

You need the right tools for spanking so that you get to reach the pleasure you prefer. It is okay to use hands and spank, but it is sexier and shows creativity with the right spanking tools. Spanking paddles are necessary for dominant and submissive sex. We have various spanking paddles, and I highly recommend them because they are the best and safe. You can easily purchase spanking paddles online or go directly to a sex store.

Tip 5. Allow yourself to enjoy every moment in the bedroom.

Allow yourself to enjoy every moment and just play along with it (BDSM). You can just start by taking a deep breath and closing your eyes. Allowing yourself to fit at the moment helps you feel even extreme pleasure. It is good to relax during sexual activities because relaxation is what leads to the ultimate thrill during sex. Allow yourself to feel good, and you will enjoy it.

Tip 6. Use spanking as a foreplay.

I did mention that spanking creates sexual tension and thirst. The main idea of the four-play is to plus the sexual excitement and prepare the body for sex. Foreplay plays a significant role in sex. It helps get your brain and body get ready for sex. Sex needs time. That is why foreplay is critical, and that is where spanking BDSM comes in. Everyone has their way of activating their sexual mood. If BDSM works for you, why not use it as a foreplay? 

Tip 7. Do not panic.

There is no way you will enjoy any sexual activity if you panic. Yes, mostly, you are likely to panic if it is your first time, but you shouldn’t be having unreasonable emotions before anything happens. Be prepared. Panic causes discomfort and distracts you from having fun and enjoying yourself. If you can watch BDSM sex, it might look scary and make you doubt participating in it. But you never know until you try. It is actually fun. You should try it sometime. Do not panic until you experience it first.

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Part 3. Places Where You Can Spank

There are various places a person can be spanked, both women and men. For example:

• Butt spanking.

• Vaginal spanking.

• Foot spanking.

• Hand spanking.

• Tongue spanking.

• Boobs spanking.

• Nipple spanking. 

Part 4. How to spank? Spanking positions in BDSM

Positions during Sex are necessary because you do not want to be boring or bore your partner. We have various spanking positions, and I will be sharing a few with you that you might want to look into. Positions are to spice up things in the bedroom. So, we have the following spanking positions:

1. Doggy style.

2. Missionary.

3. Standing.

4. Bending over.

5. Bending over the lap.

6. Leg lock.

7. Leg scissors.

8. Diaper position.

9. Wheelbarrow position.

10. Kneeling position.

11. Be put under the arm.

To Sum Up

Hope you’ve learned how to spank in BDSM sex.

BDSM sex needs mental and physical preparation. There are various kinks and fetishes you can explore and spice up your sex life, and spanking BDSM could be the one.

It is vital to be cautious when doing BDSM sex because you can cause harm to your partner unless they prefer enduring pain during sex. 

Remember that communication is essential when coming to sexual activities to make sure you and your partner are settled and comfortable with certain things. It is good to spice up the bedroom once in a while to keep the sexual spark and cravings going. 

FAQ

Spanking is when someone uses their hands or objects to spank someone. It could be anywhere on the body, but it should be on the right parts. Some people prefer to be spanked gently, while others prefer to be spanked really hard. We have various spanking sex toys that work best and are safe to use.

There are several spanking positions, and I mentioned a few for you. You have to be in a particular position and decide which object you would like to use. Spanking during BDSM sex needs you to communicate and express to your partner what you want and how you want it. “Do you want it rough or soft?” Communicate.

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